My lovely lady and I are looking for romantic getaways. Does anyone know of any hot spots that are GLBT-friendly?
I’m THIRTY!
Yesterday was my 30th birthday. I don’t feel any physical changes, but mentally, I think I’ve been blessed with some enlightenment. Being 30 is just another way of society to regulate a human’s action. Supposedly, at 30, a person should be having a family, working a specific type of job, having certain responsibilities, and make mature “adult” decisions. By this time, we should have made all our stupid mistakes, gotten the partying out of our system (except for occassional nights out on the town), be in a job for the long haul, decided to settle down, and live a boring life. HAHAHAHA! That’s not happening for me. I’ve decided that 30 is a new beginning for me. At thirty I’m embracing all of me. I’ve found my confidence and I’m ready to share with the world all my gifts and nuances.
I’ve even created a mantra for how I’ve defined thirty:
T- Taking life by the horns and enjoying the ride. Life will have its lovely ups and its timultuous downs, but I’m equipped to conquer the wild beast.
H- Having a truly supportive network of friends. Why waste time with enemies?
I- Imagining a better life and attaining it. “Wherever you lay your will, there you will achieve.”
R-Realizing my potential and reaching higher ground. Instead of being average, I choose to set a higher standard for myself. Each day, I should be a better person than I was the day before.
T- Taking chances without fear and doubt. Our thoughts can be our worst enemies, so getting out our heads is a must. Listening to our hearts and taking leaps into the unknown can be fulfilling.
Y- Young at heart with wisdom from time. Just because you turn thirty doesn’t mean you have to stop laughing and having fun. With time, I just know what to do and not to do.
I plan to live and breathe my mantra daily. I will not be hesistant when the next person asks, “How old are you?” I will gladly reply “I am gorgeous, fabulous, and thirty!”
Au Revoir to Selfish by Dee
Book to Read
I’ve been feeling great and doing great things. One including reading a wonderful book that keeps me on the grind. It’s entitled Success is No Accident, written by Dr. Lair Ribeiro. This great read is all about changing our psychological programming to live the successful life that we desire. There really isn’t much of a difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person. Dr. Ribeiro provides great anecdotes and strategies to help anyone wanting to live a more prosperous life.
Hey Blog Family
Hey blog family. I know I know it’s seems like forever since I’ve written anything. I am alive but haven’t been in my blogger spirit for a several weeks now. Some ideas have come to mind to blog but not really pushed to do so. So here’s my update of how I’ve been spending my time.
I’ve been reading, tutoring, designing my arse off, crying over Michael Jackson’s death, watching So You Think You Can Dance, watching the Bachelorette (Thank goodness she finally got rid of Wes!), having true heart-to-heart conversations with my sweetypie, playing basketball with my sister (She kicked my ass!), praying for increase, and getting fit. Sounds like enough right?
I’m sure I could be doing more. Oh did I forget to mention that my girlfriend and I are going to restart up our nonprofit organization? I’m supposed to take the lead on this one. I haven’t done a thing this week. But I’m sure to at least do some research today.
There’s more to come and more to share. But when I’ll post, I have no idea.
Gotta Question Again
I know a good number of lesbians from college that have now had children and are living a heterosexual life or are married (and not to women). What’s up with that? Let me clarify something first, I believe that lesbians can have children, that’s not the issue. It’s the issue of lesbians having families with these men when they used to be all up in a woman’s kool-aid. And don’t give me that “sexuality is fluid” because I know that, but it’s so odd for me to think of some of these females being straight now. You tell me, what’s your take on the matter?
My New Addiction
Almost every night, I’ve been glued to the television watching “Poker After Dark.” I don’t even know how to play poker or understand the terms flop, turn, and river. However, I can pretty much figure out whose going to win each hand and I know when it’s a close call. Today, I even watched the Heads Up World Poker Championship. The tournament isn’t over though; it’ll be broadcasted for the next 3 weeks or so. It’s big money and prizes involved. Players have made millions from this game. On ”Poker After Dark”, it was winner takes all to receive $120,000. Most people don’t even get a salary of $120,000 in a year and these pros get it after a few hours. It makes me go “DAMN!” I need to read up on this sport called poker and maybe one day I’ll actually play it and win a few hands.
Tryra Show Episode: The Gay Kingdom
I was thinking a couple of days ago that maybe I should just blog about television and movies. Then, I would become a critic. For now though, I want to give a brief synopsis of yesterday’s Tyra Show.
Occassionally, Tyra conducts social experiements with various populations or with differnet people that may share similar experiences. I love these experiments because they 1) show the ignorance of some; 2) show the intelligence of some, and 3) can lead to educational outcomes. Yesterday’s episode was about a social experiment entitled “The Gay Kingdom.” The purpose was to bring members of the GLBTQ community together and discuss there biases, views, and perceptions of one another. The group was broken down as follows: a drag queen, a feminine lesbian, a masculine lesbian, a bisexual man, a masculine gay man, a feminine gay man, and a transgendered individual (classified as a straight woman).
The first exercise that the group had to perform was to identify a “King” and a “Queen” for the kingdom. Talk about drama from the beginning. There was so much debate on who deserved the titles. In the end, the masculine gay man and the feminine lesbian were granted the king ad queen titles respectively. To the astonishment of the drag queen, Hedda Lettuce, she made a great point to acknowledge that the titles were given still under a heterosexist world. I agree. Who do you think deserved those titles?
Next, the other labels were distributed and again more hell was raised. The feminine gay man was given the title of “Cook”, the bisexual man was given that of “Pauper”, the drag queen was “Jester”, the masculine lesbian was “Villain”, and the transgenedered woman was “Concubine.” The transgenedered woman, by the name of Sasha, was pissed off. I wouldve been pissed too if that label was put on me as well. Howver, during the actual segment of the show where the guests were on stage, Tyra did say that Sasha looked damn good. Possibly this is why Sasha was labeled as such and that being a concubine was probably a small compliment to the rest of the guests.
Anyway, as the show continued, Tyra asked each other how they felt being labeled. Of course, it wasn’t a good feeling for some of them. However, the feminine gay man (can’t remember his name) made the label work for him. He said that he can cook up a variety of stuff because he’s male and feminine. The bisexual man felt disrespected by the rest of the group because he they didn’t understand his sexuality. Everyone else was saying that he HAD to decide which sex to be with and define one preference. Because of this, when it came time to “execute” a member from the Kingdom, the bisexual man was chosen. I say that sexuality is fluid and bisexuals should receive the same treatment from the rest of the community. We are all different as humans period so we should not put so many restraints on a person. What do you think?
Another part of the experiment was to create laws that would govern the land. I’m not going into much detail about that, but one law that was added but did receive critique from at first was “To have protected sex at all times.” Why is this question debatable? Can anyone tell me?
Overall, I was happy that Tyra did the experiment. However, I think that the decisions and choices made could vary at different points depending on who is involved. The rainbow is comprised of a beautiful and wide spectrum and the people that live the rainbow life are just that way as well. It’s unfortunate how our differences can once in awhile hinder us from progressing and building stronger relationships. I think that once we stop labeling each other within our own community, that we’ll be just fine.
So my question is “How can we overcome a barrier such as discrimination within the GLBTQ community?”
